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Personal: Thoughts about my GESF

[Someone Likes You At Desk]*sigh* I’ve just been speaking on the phone to my GESF (Green-Eyed Southern Friend: see previous entries). Second time in two days and fourth or fifth time in a week. She really knows how to brighten my day – I just called her to see how she got on earlier today (she had to go for a Doctors checkup) and we chatted for around 30 minutes or so (yesterday we talked for around an hour). I was laughing most of the time at the things she was coming out with.

At one point I managed to steer the conversation over to the emails I’ve had from Someonelikesyou.com. A bit of background about SLY (good acronym really 🙂 ) As detailed elsewhere on the net, this service works by you entering basic details about yourself (name, age, hair colour/color, eye colour, email address) and then 5 email addresses of your friends who you have a “crush” (yuck!) on. They then get an email pointing them towards the site and have to enter in 5 email addresses of people that they think may have a crush on them – and so on. After entering 5 email addresses in, they get 1 clue – another 5 and another clue and so forth.

SLY therefore gets a whole heap of marketing data and a list of verified email addresses (as they send the emails to your potential “crushes” before giving you your clue: if the email bounces, you don’t get your clue). Very “spammy” way of doing business…

What’s this to do with my GESF – well, let me explain…

After originally getting the email from SLY, I started to “work the system” by giving it a lot of email addresses to get my clues. But instead of deluging my friends with spam, I make up several addresses which point to valid mail servers which I operate. The emails arrive, I get my clues and then I hit the “bounce all messages” button: the mails go back to SLY marked “Undeliverable”, but I’ve still got my clues. Cunning eh? 😉 I wouldn’t recommend using any real email addresses with this services as, although I haven’t got any proof yet, I can only see that this service operates on a near spam level.

After a month or so of this, they then send you an option to get a couple more useful clues. You get these by visiting their site and then registering with their “partners”. I registered with a couple of them (using fake data of course), but all the rest want credit-card information before they will divulge any more data- so it looks like I’m stuck with the following:

My original clues:

  1. Your secret admirer’s hair is Light Brown
  2. Your secret admirer likes to spend free time doing TV/Videos
  3. Your secret admirer’s perfect first date is Dinner and a movie
  4. Your secret admirer describes his/her sense of humor like this: I’m a goofball
  5. Your secret admirer has Hazel eyes
  6. Your secret admirer has this type of pet: Cats

And my additional, more helpful clues:

  1. Person’s last name contains 6 letters
  2. Person’s first name begins with a letter between K and O
  3. Person’s last name begins with a letter between K and O
  4. Person is between 21 and 25 years old

Now, only one person fits all that criteria: my GESF’s flatmate (who I’ve also met). Light brown hair – check. Hazel eyes (well, according to my GESF they are brown) – check. Name length and initial letter – check. Type of pets, however, doesn’t check. They had a cat, but she didn’t particularly like them.

Hmm, so that’s the only potential person I could have thought (and I had doubts she would have had a crush on me anyway). Whoever has been sending these messages to me – let me know! I will NOT find out via Someonelikesyou.com!

Anyway, going back to my GESF, I find out she’s had a number of those messages herself. Now, either quite a number of people like her (hence want her to be their crush) or quite a number of people want her to like them (hence putting her down as potentially the person who entered their name). Finding that out did make me quite jealous as I do really really like her: we seem to get on like a house on fire, agree on many things, like the same things, have the same sense of humour/humor. Hell, we’ve even found out we think the same about children, getting married and the s*x word!: even discussing things like that, to me, “isn’t a done thing” between platonic friends.

The position that I’m in, therefore, is this. What do I do? We are both “without partners” at this point of time. I really like her, I don’t know how she feels about me (I’ve been too scared to ask): but how do I find out?

I know I was talking about love with her earlier last week, just after I had finished reading Arthur C. Clarke’s “The Road To The Sea” from”Tales From Planet Earth“, and although I couldn’t find the references whilst I was on the phone to her, the following quotes did stick in my mind:

No one had ever told her, and she had not yet discovered, that when one has to ask “Am I really in love?” the answer is always “No”.

The person one loves never really exists, but is a projection focused through the lens of the mind onto whatever screen it fits with least distortion

I do feel that I am in love with her – and I haven’t needed to ask “Am I really in Love”, but, of course, my shyness is getting in the way. I do not want to lose her (even between my ex-fiancee and I, we would have had several telephone arguments by now: but I have yet to have one disagreement with my GESF and vice-versa) and I would prefer to have her as a friend than not have her at all.

Sigh. If only the clues from SLY actually matched GESF then it’ll be so easy, but, alas, life is never easy and I haven’t got a clue what to do. I guess just wait and see…

2 Comments

  1. boris boris

    Go get her man. I was in much the same predicamnet and decided that friendship was to good to challenge with “I love you”. She eventually dated elsewhere I became insanely jealous. we still talk and go out occaisionally but we rarely see or speak to each other any more. If she’s your best friend, tell her. If you love her, tell her. If she loves you she’ll tell you. If she doesn’t she’ll get over it, and so will you.

    Aren’t soul mates best mates in love?

  2. laura laura

    richy and boris – please email me (richy more cos i can help you)
    please please please…I’ll explain.but you’re just what i’m looking for.

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