Personal: Thoughts about my GESF

*sigh* I’ve just been speaking on the phone to my GESF (Green-Eyed Southern Friend: see previous entries). Second time in two days and fourth or fifth time in a week. She really knows how to brighten my day – I just called her to see how she got on earlier today (she had to go for a Doctors checkup) and we chatted for around 30 minutes or so (yesterday we talked for around an hour). I was laughing most of the time at the things she was coming out with.

At one point I managed to steer the conversation over to the emails I’ve had from Someonelikesyou.com. A bit of background about SLY (good acronym really 🙂 ) As detailed elsewhere on the net, this service works by you entering basic details about yourself (name, age, hair colour/color, eye colour, email address) and then 5 email addresses of your friends who you have a “crush” (yuck!) on. They then get an email pointing them towards the site and have to enter in 5 email addresses of people that they think may have a crush on them – and so on. After entering 5 email addresses in, they get 1 clue – another 5 and another clue and so forth.

SLY therefore gets a whole heap of marketing data and a list of verified email addresses (as they send the emails to your potential “crushes” before giving you your clue: if the email bounces, you don’t get your clue). Very “spammy” way of doing business…

What’s this to do with my GESF – well, let me explain…

After originally getting the email from SLY, I started to “work the system” by giving it a lot of email addresses to get my clues. But instead of deluging my friends with spam, I make up several addresses which point to valid mail servers which I operate. The emails arrive, I get my clues and then I hit the “bounce all messages” button: the mails go back to SLY marked “Undeliverable”, but I’ve still got my clues. Cunning eh? 😉 I wouldn’t recommend using any real email addresses with this services as, although I haven’t got any proof yet, I can only see that this service operates on a near spam level.

After a month or so of this, they then send you an option to get a couple more useful clues. You get these by visiting their site and then registering with their “partners”. I registered with a couple of them (using fake data of course), but all the rest want credit-card information before they will divulge any more data- so it looks like I’m stuck with the following:

My original clues:

1. Your secret admirer’s hair is Light Brown
2. Your secret admirer likes to spend free time doing TV/Videos
3. Your secret admirer’s perfect first date is Dinner and a movie
4. Your secret admirer describes his/her sense of humor like this: I’m a goofball
5. Your secret admirer has Hazel eyes
6. Your secret admirer has this type of pet: Cats

And my additional, more helpful clues:

1. Person’s last name contains 6 letters
2. Person’s first name begins with a letter between K and O
3. Person’s last name begins with a letter between K and O
4. Person is between 21 and 25 years old

Now, only one person fits all that criteria: my GESF’s flatmate (who I’ve also met). Light brown hair – check. Hazel eyes (well, according to my GESF they are brown) – check. Name length and initial letter – check. Type of pets, however, doesn’t check. They had a cat, but she didn’t particularly like them.

Hmm, so that’s the only potential person I could have thought (and I had doubts she would have had a crush on me anyway). Whoever has been sending these messages to me – let me know! I will NOT find out via Someonelikesyou.com!

Anyway, going back to my GESF, I find out she’s had a number of those messages herself. Now, either quite a number of people like her (hence want her to be their crush) or quite a number of people want her to like them (hence putting her down as potentially the person who entered their name). Finding that out did make me quite jealous as I do really really like her: we seem to get on like a house on fire, agree on many things, like the same things, have the same sense of humour/humor. Hell, we’ve even found out we think the same about children, getting married and the s*x word!: even discussing things like that, to me, “isn’t a done thing” between platonic friends.

The position that I’m in, therefore, is this. What do I do? We are both “without partners” at this point of time. I really like her, I don’t know how she feels about me (I’ve been too scared to ask): but how do I find out?

I know I was talking about love with her earlier last week, just after I had finished reading Arthur C. Clarke’s “The Road To The Sea” from”Tales From Planet Earth“, and although I couldn’t find the references whilst I was on the phone to her, the following quotes did stick in my mind:

No one had ever told her, and she had not yet discovered, that when one has to ask “Am I really in love?” the answer is always “No”.

The person one loves never really exists, but is a projection focused through the lens of the mind onto whatever screen it fits with least distortion

I do feel that I am in love with her – and I haven’t needed to ask “Am I really in Love”, but, of course, my shyness is getting in the way. I do not want to lose her (even between my ex-fiancee and I, we would have had several telephone arguments by now: but I have yet to have one disagreement with my GESF and vice-versa) and I would prefer to have her as a friend than not have her at all.

Sigh. If only the clues from SLY actually matched GESF then it’ll be so easy, but, alas, life is never easy and I haven’t got a clue what to do. I guess just wait and see…